Saturday, April 12, 2014

Always get married in the morning...

More relationship advice. This time from the late Mickey Rooney (married eight times) who advised: "Always get married in the morning. That way, if it doesn't work out, you haven't wasted a whole day."
I once read that over half of the marriages in the United States end in divorce, so I have to concede that Mickey is much more of an expert on these things than I am (I have only been married twice so far).
On Facebook, for those of you who want to list being in a relationship, one of the choices you can select is "It's complicated". Looking around and seeing the relationships that many people are in, it's a bit surprising this selection is not chosen more often. It isn't necessarily a negative; relationships can be complicated and also be hard work.
We have so many different types and degrees of relationships: acquaintances, friends, good friends, best friends, enemies, relatives, colleagues, bosses/subordinates, co-workers, customers, girlfriends/boyfriends, lovers, fiancĂ©es, spouses, and a host of others. Put "former" in front of the descriptor, and you have created a whole new set. Considering how relationships can also change, you can begin to see why that one choice on Facebook isn't all that bad.
I guess you could say that the dynamic nature of relationships (they start, end, morph into different levels or categories) is part of what makes life so interesting and challenging. Relationships also seem to be something we all want or need. Think of Tom Hank's character in Castaway who developed a relationship with a volleyball (who he named "Wilson"). If we don't have a relationship, it seems like we will figure out a way to create one.
Whether you choose a volleyball or a spouse, whatever meets your need is OK. Remember , though, if you choose to get married, pick a time before noon. It can't hurt.

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